Saturday, 29 December 2007


Since we are social beings that cannot do without interacting, our interests are bound to conflict with other people’s interest once in a while and when it does, whether consciously or unconsciously, we hurt others - even those we love. In fact, I doubt if it is possible to live life without hurting someone. Since we are all susceptible to hurting others, it is important that we forgive people when they hurt us because we will also need others to forgive us too when we hurt them. Else, prospering in this world of ours will be difficult. No wonder why George Herbert concluded that “he who cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself.”

Truth be told, forgiving others is not an easy task especially when it hurts badly; you have to be strong to forgive. Be that as it may, shall we always severe our relationship with everyone that hurts us? Shall we obstruct the good we often might receive because of past hurts? Shall we hurt our health because of mere events or talks? Obviously, that will be the beginning of insanity!

Holding on to past hurt(s) clouds your reasoning - which invariably affects your decisions and your decisions in turn affect the results you get - which explains why unforgiving people are often stagnant. So learn to forgive others if you desire growth. Likewise, you should never resort to revenge in any situation because if you do, given that the law of sowing and reaping is true and absolute, others too will have revenge on you when you hurt them. Instead of having to carry the heavy baggage of past hurts, you can transfer the guilt to the offender by letting out the grievances and forgiving the fellow(s) concerned.

As we conclude another year, it is advisable that you forgive all those that have offended you no matter how grave the offence(s) might be so that you can usher in the New Year with peace of mind. With peace of mind, you will be able to think straight – and if you can think straight, your breakthrough is certain. With peace of mind, you will also enjoy good health which will give you the opportunity to achieve the desired increase because health, they say, is wealth. Most importantly, forgiving others will win you more allies who will assist you in achieving your goals.

Employ forgiveness as a tool to your advancement. Alleviate your situation, let go and let God.

Friday, 21 December 2007


Self esteem, according to Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, is a feeling of being happy with your own character and abilities. You can’t possibly achieve much if you are not happy with yourself. Many fail in the battle of life because they believe they are not good enough for success. Most youths involve themselves in drugs because of low self esteem. The major reason behind suicides in our world today is as a result of low self esteem. Majority involve themselves in ludicrous habits as a result of low self esteem. The list is endless. As dangerous as the consequences of low self-esteem are, it is however sad that our schools’ curricula are filled with teachings on ethics but fails to teach Men how to boost their self esteem. What a sham!

Life is not without stress; never was, never will. You’ll always have issues to deal with and you’re definitely going to feel down once in a while, but you must be quick to get yourself up when you do. Always be conscious of who you are. No matter the situation, don’t ever forget your makeup: You are an amazing being full of intricate systems. Think of your magnificent body mechanism. Think of your tireless pumping machine called the heart that is responsible for pumping blood through your blood vessels. Think of the fluid of life called the blood that constantly flows through your vessels, delivering essential elements, and removing harmful wastes. Think of the paired organs in your chest called the lungs that perform respiration. Think of the most complex organ in your body called the brain that regulates virtually all your activities. More curiosity about your body and how it functions will definitely lead to understanding and respect for self. All the organs deposited in your body by the Creator could not have been put in place for show-off, they were deposited in you to give you the life needed to carry out your divine assignment. I say, and reiterate, that you are not an afterthought. You were made to redefine possibilities. You are unique. You have abilities yet untold. You can do whatever you set your mind to do. So, refuse to believe that you are good for nothing.

Whoever you are, however ugly you are, however fat you are, however short you are, however dumb you are, however broke you are, however deformed you are, whatever colour your skin may be, however hopeless the odds may be, I implore you to believe in yourself. If you’re alive as you read this, there’s hope. So, purge yourself of the limiting thoughts! Look yourself up in the mirror and assess your self. Whatever you see in the mirror is you and the earlier you accept it, the better for you. Beauty is skin deep, so don’t worry about your looks. What matters is that you are part of the Infinite and that your abilities are limitless. So, never, never, ever relinquish your dreams! Never give up on yourself. Since power comes from within, it is important that you recourse to your inner strength for solutions to your challenges. Look within and identify your endowments and then use them to the full to further your cause. You are not useless, there’s something special in you. You have something special to contribute to this world of ours. You are a torch bearer. You can change the course of history. You can beat circumstances to it.

According to Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” So, enough of the cruelty to yourself! It’s time to regain your dignity. On your feet soldier! Draw your sword, and then launch an attack on the adversary called low self-esteem with all your might before it ruins you. Pursue, overtake, recover!

Friday, 14 December 2007


I once heard of an entrepreneur who veered into cat fish farming (with artificial plastic tanks) without being properly informed. He was made to believe that the dirtier the water, the better for the cat fish (whereas modern research has shown that constant changing of water helps because feed leftovers, excreta and ammonia from the water invites diseases and also slows down the growth of the fish) and so he didn’t change the water often. He also fed the fish with the wrong feed concentrate he was prescribed. To add to that, he overstocked the pond based on the information he got. Since the environment was not right for the fish, and the feed does not supply them with the nutrients which they require to flourish, majority of the fish died while the survivors didn’t grow up to the anticipated size. Hence, the venture culminated in loss. That’s what happens when one is misinformed or not informed at all.

We rob ourselves of success by being in the dark - good things elude us because we do not have the right information. If the methodology is not right, the output cannot be right. Wrong information in business, academics, or in any area of our lives will inevitably lead to failure – you can’t beat it! A sure way of escaping from failure is by being informed and acting on the information to further your cause. If you are rightly informed (if you know where to get what you want, how to get it, recognize it when you get it and maximize its utility), you will be able to achieve more. Thus, the right Information is very vital to the success of any endeavor because the input, to a large extent, determines the output.

How often do you search for information in the wrong place? How often do you act on information that has not been ascertained to be true? Don’t be deceived, if the information is not right, the output will definitely not be what it should be; failure is inevitable if the fundamentals are not right. Many feats we consider impossible are possible with the right information. To the fellow who wants to study abroad but does not have enough funds, do you know that tuition is totally free in Scandinavian countries? Find out. To the frustrated researcher who’s incapacitated by funds, do you know that many research grants go unclaimed every year? Find out. Do you know that you can source for about any information on the Internet to help with whatever project you embark on? Find out. The list is endless. Whatever you want, however you want it, wherever you want it, you can have it; all it takes is the right information. And the good news is that all the information you require is in the air, all you have to do is source for it in the appropriate place.

Ignorance limits; it even kills. Whereas, having the right information saves you a lot of time and stress, and then helps you to achieve the desired. As such, it is important that you get your facts right before venturing into anything. Whatever the vocation you’re in, whatever your location, the right information can catapult you into greatness. So, seek it. Secure it. Utilize it. Preserve it.

Information, they say, is power. Thus, it is important that you commit yourself to the sourcing of correct information from time to time so that you can always do the right thing so that you can always get the right result(s). Having the right information gives you the winning edge, so key-in into the vast information available to improve your lot. You can do the impossible. You can achieve your desires. You can even set the pace. You can excel.

Do more than exist, flourish!

Friday, 7 December 2007


Have you ever wondered how ants locate sugar? Isn’t it funny that bees will always locate nectar no matter how remote the location of the flower might be? Ever fathomed how maggots get inside sealed tombs? How bizarre!

All of nature (all the plants, animals and things that exist in the universe that are not made by people according to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary) obeys the law of attraction. This law is true to the latter. It states that every action attracts a reaction. It is inescapable. The law can work for you or against you. It is eternal. However, as absolute as the law is, Man, unlike animals that can only adapt to their environment, can influence it to his advantage by altering his actions which in turn attracts the desired results. What a relief!

Whether you accept it or not, you are responsible for all the circumstances that befalls you. An indolent person will attract nothing but poverty, demotion and frustration while a hardworking person will attract increase, success and consequently fulfillment. This behooves us to critically assess our lives. Who are you? What do you attract...success or failure? What caliber of people do you pull to yourself? If you are a spinster and all your suitors are usually riff-raffs, then it’s time to check yourself; there must be something about you that attracts them! If all the jobs you’ve ever been offered have been odd all your life, then think again; there must be something about your personality that suggests to the employers that you’re only good for odd jobs! The list is endless. You are where you are today because you attracted the conditions and your tomorrow is also dependent on what you attract. Your work ethics, attitude, level of education, mindset, character, amongst other things, will inevitably attract success or failure to you. Isn’t it wise then that you control what you attract so that only the desired will come to pass? The answer is affirmative.

Since you are not exempt from the law of attraction, it is imperative that you use the law to your advantage. As complicated as nature is, you can manipulate it to suit your purpose; you can control the effect by altering the cause. You can get the best from life by attracting only the desired. You can attract abundance. You can recreate your world by consciously creating the causes. You can woo success.

It’s time for conquest, so take on your armour of resistance, and utilize your weapon of change; vehemently resist life from pushing you willy-nilly, dictate for it. Unlimited Man, it’s time to exhibit your limitless abilities. It’s time to dominate!