Friday 25 January 2008


Since you are a social being, you cannot do without mingling with friends. Interestingly, who you mingle with will determine your reasoning, your reasoning will determine your actions, and your actions in turn will determine the results you get from life. Thus, your friends can be assets to you, while they can also be liabilities. Your friends can get you jobs, while they can also get you sacked. Your friends can help you inculcate good habits, while they can also introduce you to bad habits. Your friends can recommend you for a lifting, while they can also fish you out for destruction. Your friends can support you, while they can also demote you. Your friends can give you a new lease of life, while they can also kill you. Isn’t it just wise then that you choose only good friends to roll with? The answer is affirmative.

Sadly, good friends are rare to come by in times like these because selfishness is the order of the day. Who then is a good friend? A true friend, in Richard Exley’s words, “is one who hears and understands when you share your deepest feelings. He supports you when you are struggling; he corrects you, gently and with love, when you err; and he forgives you when you fail. A true friend prods you to personal growth, stretches you to your full potential. And most amazing of all, he celebrates your successes as if they were his own.” How many of your friends fit into that definition? Do a thorough assessment and be truthful to yourself. Since anyone that can’t increase you will decrease you, keeping bad friends is tantamount to wickedness to self. So purge them out! Let go of them before they ruin you! Flee from the bad ones! If however you’ve got some good ones, cultivate the relationships; hold on to them tightly, they’ll inevitably add to you. If you haven’t got some good ones, then it’s time to search for some; it’ll help - you can win with people.

It doesn’t matter the quantity of friends you have, it’s the quality that counts. So, reshuffle; discard the bad ones, keep only the good ones, even add more good ones. It is also worthy to note that the Law of Attraction comes to play here as you can only attract good friends to yourself only if you are one, so by all means make yourself one so that you can network your way to success.

Team up with great minds so that you can scale the utmost height. Soar with the eagles!

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