Friday 21 September 2007


Man is a social being; he cannot do without interacting with his fellows. In the course of his daily interactions, because of each man’s uniqueness, disputes are inevitable. These disputes can either make him, or mar his destiny. Call it an exaggeration, but see what I mean…

Many countries have fallen apart and gone to war because they could not settle their differences amicably and as a result countless of destinies have been ruined - many killed, many maimed, and economies disrupted. Most people find themselves in trouble today because of their inability to make peace; many have been killed or imprisoned because they could not control their temper to deal with situations. Many destinies have gone downhill because the owners opted for violence instead of dialogue. Without being cynical, the world is doomed without dialogue.

From eternity to eternity, disputes will always arise. Since disputes will always arise, resolution should first come to mind each time it does without selfishness or prejudice. Even a one-time war General, Ulysses S. Grant, declared that “There never was a time, in my opinion, some way could not be found to prevent the drawing of a sword.” Much of the trouble we find ourselves today could have been avoided if we had embraced dialogue. Fellows, no matter the complexity of any issue, you need not go to war or even have a brawl; there’s no issue that can’t be resolved.

Avoidance is always better than confrontation. Dialogue pays; it saves you a lot of time and stress. According to Mahatma Gandhi “Nonviolence is the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man.” You don’t have to win all the time, you can negotiate. It doesn’t necessarily mean compromising your values, it’s creating a win-win situation where both parties meet in the middle to find a common ground.

If you want peace to reign in your life, you must apply wisdom in all your dealings. Improve your lot, embrace dialogue.

1 comment:

Ireti Ishola said...

I agree with you that dialogue works.I recall with nostlagia how I solved a major problem recently by dialoguing with the other party.It is also very timely.I would also like to commend you for your consistency.Almost everybody can start something great but it takes someone with an unusual zeal to do what you are doing consistently.Keep up the good job.I am proud of you.